Wednesday 6 November 2013

Tantra , letting yourself go,freeing your mind.


Tantric sex can make lovemaking more exciting.Firstly, prepare yourself for sex by breathing in deeply to the count of seven and inhaling longer than you exhale.,
Secondly,practice,dynamic meditation.
Thirdly practice the shakti shake by putting on music .Commence,by shaking your right leg,your left leg followed by your hips,arms and shoulders.
Building Body Love: Through the Looking Glass,
A fundamental part of every sex therapy seminar) involves looking at your body and changing any negative attitudes. Often called “homework,” Such exercises are referred to as “homeplay,” since everything you do to increase pleasure should be play and fun, rather than work.
1. Stand naked in front of a full-length mirror (a good time to do this is after a bath). Look at every part of you, starting from your feet and moving slowly up to the top of your head (as in Chapter 3, when you moved your energy through the energy centers). If you catch yourself criticizing, stop and say something kind instead; for example, “My breasts are too small” becomes “My breasts are nice and firm”; “My thighs are too bulky” becomes “My legs are so strong.” you are simply shifting your focus and being gentler with yourself.
2. Examine your genitals. Women can sit on the bed and use a hand mirror (and flashlight) because the female genitals are less obvious than men’s. Open the lips and notice colors, moistness, shapes.
3. Examine your first chakra (your base center located around your anal area, the symbol of security). An easier position to do this for men and women is to squat. As in the genital exam for women, men can use a mirror and flashlight to see more clearly. Notice colors and skin texture.

Breathing and Tantra-Breathe Through the Chakras
A chakra refers to parts of your body. Your breathing practices help you create a clear channel in your body through which air can travel past these chakras; cleansing, feeding, and fueling you. Air going through a clear channel in your body is called an inner flute because of its sweet flutelike sound. You can send your breath to your partner, who will cycle it through his or her chakras and return it, fueling and empowering you both. As you breathe, picture the breath going through the chakras.
➤ The complete breath relaxes you. Inhale deeply into your lower belly and chest (until it pouches out like a contented Buddha). You can do this on your own or with a partner; either face to face or back to back. Sadly, many people resist doing this breath, feeling unattractive with their belly popping out, but it is a good breath to do in the middle of sex. Say, “Let’s do the Buddha breath” and press your bellies and chests against each other.
Do the Chakra Thump ➤ In contrast, as its name suggests, the fire breath fires you up. Take continual rapid breaths in and out of the nose (like snorting) causing your stomach to pulsate quickly. You can accelerate the energy even more by raising and lowering your arms (a familiar motion if you exercise on a stationary bike). Once you get your individual breathing going better, you are ready to breath with a partner for more powerful love connections. One word of caution, however: Too much energy in the brain before you are prepared to handle it can cause you to literally “blow your fuse,” like too many electrical appliances in an outlet. This results in headaches, confusion, passing out, or even a panic attack.
➤ Synchronizing breath In this exercise you breathe in and out at the same time as your partner to get on the same wavelength. Sit comfortably cross-legged facing each other on a pillow if necessary, as long as your spine is straight. Give each other a wink or touch to signal your pacing. After a while, close your eyes to sense each other’s energy pattern.
➤ Reciprocal breath In this breath imagine that you are exchanging air, inhaling your partner’s breath (or imagine breathing for each other). Sit in the yab yum position and inhale while your partner exhales; then exhale while your partner inhales.
Taps awaken energy
Tap on any of your chakras to awaken the energy there. It means making rapid repetitive up-and-down tapping motions on the body with the pads of your fingers. You can also make a fist and use the softer sides of your hands. Review the locations of the chakras in Chapter 3. Practice Streaming
Streaming is a variation of the previous exercises. The giver taps forcefully on either side of the receiver’s spine with the fingertips, starting from the sacrum and progressing up to the neck. A nice addition: When you get to the shoulders, do a nice massage!,
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Dance Up an Energy Storm
Chapter 15 examines dance as movement, body conditioning, and just having fun. , “Make It Juicy with Magic and Play,” by sharing some playful things with your partner. Put on some music at home and let yourself sway, bob, shimmy, and shake. Improvise. ,